Great Expectations and Hopscotch
You deserve what you expect... and you should expect what you deserve.
It has been said by people way smarter than me that people will live up OR DOWN to our expectations of them. It is especially true of young people and children. And it is true of everyone else.
I had the honor of witnessing the exchange of wedding vows by two incredibly special people. Their expectation is that they have an incredibly happy life together. It made me think about my expectations. What do I expect of myself and what do I expect of others?
I should have expectations of myself but of others? We have no control over other people... except that we do. We train people in how to treat us. If we treat ourselves with respect and respect others, we typically get respect in return. If we do not, and we accept disrespectful behavior, we are training people that we expect to be treated that way and it is acceptable.
What happens when we have unrealistic expectations? What happens when we have a dream or expectation that is out of reach? “I want to be an astronaut.” Then I need to study and train to fulfill my dream.
I once heard a motivational speaker say, “If your mind can conceive it, and your heart can believe it, you will achieve it!” ~ MK Mueller
If we expect (believe) it...
A few weeks ago, I was having a hard time sleeping. I decided to list things I was thankful for. A was for Aunt Audrey, B was for my brothers, C was for... well, you get the picture.
I was for If. If we put in the work, and believe it is possible, that it’s as good as done, THEN it will happen.
How many times are we disappointed because we expected of others that which we had no control over? I want someone to do something for me... Well, if I want them to do something, and I have asked them to do it, then (and only then) can I have any reasonable expectation of it happening. And it may not. But it isn’t because you didn’t “do the work” (requesting).
I know that this writing is a little hopscotched, but it makes sense to me.
You see, I had an expectation of how an experience was going to go. EXCEPT, I didn’t share my aspiration with the universe (or the people who could fulfill the request). And then I was disappointed that it didn’t go my way. Now, how on earth does that make any sense?
Even the Bible says “Ask and you shall receive. Seek and you will find. Knock and it will be opened.” It doesn’t say, “Let someone guess what you need and want and perhaps you will get it. So, good grief on me. How many tears is it going to take before I learn my lesson?
And that’s another story for another day.
And... another hopscotch...
I have been enjoying learning to paint. Last week, there was a storm that passed through our area. There was very little rain, and a lot of thunder and lightning. I took photos and received photos and was inspired to try and capture the feeling on canvas.
At the afore mentioned wedding, there were a lot of hydrangeas. I have been painting my fair share of hydrangeas. Obviously, the bride really likes them! They were down the center of the tables at the rehearsal dinner, and I just had to paint it.
Do what you love, love what you do, do not sell yourself short and expect only the best!
Another lesson learned in all that, cheap paints don’t paint. Don't buy cheap paint!
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